“The whole idea of being at peace just pisses her off. At peace. Who but the insane would ever be at peace? What person who has enjoyed life could possibly think that one is enough? Who could live even a day and not feel the sweet ache of regret?” – Jess Walter, Beautiful Ruins
Regret is something has crossed my mind a lot lately. This idea of “living life with no regrets.” I often wonder if, at the end of my life, I will have regrets. The answer is “yes.” I probably will. There is a lot of pressure infused into this “no regrets” philosophy. On the other hand, I can understand the desire to accomplish all that one wants to accomplish. There is this one chance to do it, so just do it.
Or I could give up on all of that and just deal with what is right in front of my face, good or bad.
I am reading Beautiful Ruins right now and really loved this quote. It, in a way, gives some perspective on this uneasiness I have with the “no regrets” philosophy.
4 thoughts on “On regret”
We all have regrets. I think we have to learn how we handle ourselves and these thoughts. My wife and I recently separated. When it happened, I was filled with regrets. But I quickly learned, regretting something is to relive it. The past is only good for one thing, to learn from. And the very act of learning anything, is a positive step forward. I know I can’t or won’t have the opportunity to do everything I’d like. And I know there will be things that I’ll attempt but will fail at. I’m okay with that. Today, I’d rather try something and fail, than never try it and be left wondering.
I think that last line on your comment is key. i feel the same way about trying things.
I am so sorry to hear about your separation 😦
It’s okay. I feel great about the future and my prospects. This separation has been a massive learning experience. I can only be a better person now. I’m happy and looking forward to new opportunities.
I am so glad to hear that you are happy. I wish you all the best 🙂